How to Prepare for Anal Sex [My First Experience]

18 Oct, 2017

The first time I attempted anal sex with a partner, I can honestly say I wasn’t prepared. My butthole reminded me of this lack of preparation every time I pooped for a week. I vowed from that point on that I would never do it again. For context, I’ve said the same thing about my first time giving oral, receiving oral, and having basic ole intercourse. All of which, I now thoroughly enjoy and can’t get enough of. Sex has become a wonderful experience that I take pleasure in. Though I have yet to try anal again, I am certainly not as steadfast in my initial rejection. Because of this, I wanted to do a bit of research on the practice of anal sex and take you all on this journey of discovery with me. I’ve compiled some of the most common safe and best practices when preparing for anal sex and deciding whether or not it is for you.

Step 1: Make Sure It's Consensual

The first and most obvious thing to confirm before engaging in anal sex is that this is a consensual act. This should go without saying but anal sex along with all forms of sexual contact should be consensual for everyone involved. Far too often, I’ve experienced someone “not realizing” they’re jamming their junk at my anus. If you want to avoid a fist jamming into your mouth, ask first. Have a discussion about whether or not it is something you both want. If there are any reservations on either side, discuss them and if one of you decides it’s not what you want, don’t do it. There are so many other fun things to do!

Step 2: Use Lots of Lube

The most common advice I’ve found was to lube it all up. Use water-based lubricants because your butthole doesn’t have any natural lubrication which increases the risk of tearing and a super sore bum. Oil-based lubricants damage latex so it is not recommended if you are using protection, which I hope you are. You still run the risk of contracting STDs and HIV. Since we’re talking about infections, it is highly discouraged to go straight from the bum hole to the vagina. Bacteria, like E.Coli, can be transferred to the urinary tract causing a urinary tract infection. If you’ve ever had a UTI, you understand why this would suck. So just wash the penis off before you keep on grinding.

Step 3: Start Slowly

It's important to take your time and slowly introduce the anus to the experience of anal sex, especially if it’s your first time. Apparently, there are a bunch of nerve endings in the rump area that feel amazing when stimulated. Start off with smaller objects like your partner’s fingers (if they’re clean and their fingernails don’t resemble serrated knives.). This will allow your tuckus to ease into allowing foreign colorful objects to enter it. Eventually, you can graduate to sex toys of varying sizes. In my experience, most sex shops are happy to talk to you and educate you on the best products to use.

[Bonus Tip] Make Sure Your Butt Is Clean

It is also important to keep your bottom clean, before and after. The TUSHY bidet can certainly help with that. Pre-anal, make sure you get any excess dingleberries or booty crust out of there to reduce the risk of spreading infections. Unless you’re into fecal play, you probably want the cleanest experience possible. The TUSHY bidet will give your butt the most thorough clean before any anal action. I highly recommend using it after as well. After my attempt at butt action, my TUSHY provided the most amazing sense of relief. The cool stream eased the intense soreness I felt after pooping. Toilet paper would have WRECKED me.

For anyone who wants to try anal or for those of you who had a terrible initial experience, like me, I hope this helped answer any questions. It certainly isn’t for everyone but the beauty of having free will and agency over your body is the ability to determine what pleases you sexually. Will I try it again? Probably. I’ll keep you posted. ;)

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